Blog by Rachel Brown
I recently read a quote from Rachel Wolchin that made me smile because I could identify with it…she said, “My entire life can be described in one sentence: it didn’t go as planned, and that’s ok.”
Ahh, isn’t that the truth!! As I reflect on my life there are a lot of things that I thought would be different, plans and dreams that I thought would have already been reality for me and I know as you read this, there are things about your life that you thought would be different. I certainly didn’t think I’d be 49 and still single but alas, here I am!! I know being single can be a difficult subject for some women so I thought I’d share with you some things I have discovered about being single and I pray that you are encouraged.
Being single doesn’t mean you’re less than.
I love the scripture in 2 Corinthians 6:11-13 (MSG) because it challenges me to change my perspective on being single. “Dear, dear Corinthians, I can’t tell you how much I long for you to enter this wide-open, spacious life. We didn’t fence you in. The smallness you feel comes from within you. Your lives aren’t small, but you’re living them in a small way. I’m speaking as plainly as I can and with great affection. Open up your lives. Live openly and expansively!”
Your life matters – you matter!! If you are feeling your life is incomplete as a single women, it’s time to change that perspective and realize it’s not your marital status that defines you!!
You can be content as a single woman.
Contentment is a decision, not a feeling. It’s a determination to be satisfied with what God has given you today.
You are LOVED.
The fact that God hasn’t given you a husband at this point in your life doesn’t mean He doesn’t love you. It means God, in His love, is using your singleness to mold and shape you to be more like Him and to draw you to Him.
Isaiah 68:8 says, “But now, O Lord, You are our Father, We are the clay, and You our potter; And all of us are the work of Your hand.”
Have confidence that God is molding you and shaping your life. I am comforted in the knowledge that God knows me, in fact, He knows every step and detail of my life – my joys, frustrations, disappointments, longings, dreams – the lot! I love Proverbs 16:9, “The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.” It’s God, if we allow Him that establishes our steps.
Sweetheart, live your life to the full – serve and love others and as you do, you’ll find there will come a sense of satisfaction and fulfilment that can’t be found anywhere else.